Dating violence in high school a profile of the victims

One winter day during my junior year, I found out that he had cheated on me again. He became enraged as I walked away to my class but he didn't follow me. In that moment, I had two choices: I could either sit there and continue to be belittled in front of everyone because he wasn't going to leave, and nobody else was going to say or do anything, or I could walk out and be shamed anyway because I had given into his threats. As we walked down the hall, he spit in my face, pulled my necklace off my neck, threw it in the trashcan and he threw me up against the lockers. Mine is a story of emotional, psychological, and physical abuse.

After class had begun, I heard the door swing open, which was at the front of the classroom. He stayed at the door and looked toward the teacher and said to him in front of the whole class, "I need to speak to that fucking whore right there." He pointed at me, then he turned to me and said, "Bitch, get your fucking stupid ass out here now." Everybody turned and looked at me in shock but nobody said a word. It didn't begin immediately, in fact, there weren't any signs until we had been dating for almost a year.

"Most of what we know suggests that girls are more likely to be victims of sexual violence." The researchers surveyed more than 1,000 boys and girls ages 11 to 17 years from 35 Texas schools about dating violence and self-defense practices.

It was easier to live with the shame and guilt in secrecy.The excitement of being in a relationship can stop you from seeing the warning signs of abuse.Remember – you don’t have to have broken bones or a black eye to be abused."Most samples are not specifically high risk populations where youth are previously exposed to violence," said lead author Dennis E.Reidy of the Division of Violence Prevention at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in Atlanta.